fartgallery:

blacksmith: *takes pizza rolls out of the oven and instinctively hits them with a hammer*

blacksmith: oh shit not again

mjalti:

enjoy the short term!!! sometimes ur not gonna be friends for 46 years and that’s ok, just enjoy the drive!!! some people aren’t gonna have a significant impact in ur life but not every show is a TedTalk, sometimes u needs some Real Housewives!!’ loosen up, the universe is rearing to explode and if that bix isn’t permanent herself, you’ve got nothing to lose! forever is an illusion

adventures-in-poor-planning:

madtomedgar:

thinking about the statement that all maladaptive coping mechanisms were helpful and, well, adaptive, at some point, and that they become maladaptive when the circumstance changes or when their detriments outweigh their benefits, and how the framework of “this is no longer helpful to you” is probably better than “this is a bad habit/this is bad for you.” How much better “you don’t have to live like that anymore” feels than “that’s a bad habit you picked up when you were in a bad place.” “It’s ok, you can look now,” vs “you’ve been tainted/infected/sullied by a previous bad circumstance.”

Thought about this today while reading about hermit crabs. 

Hermit crabs start out their lives tiny and defenceless, and they choose a small shell to protect them. When they grow too big for the shell, big enough that it stops them from growing more, they abandon it and move on to a shell better for them at that size.

Does that mean the old shell was a terrible mistake? No, because it protected them back when they were smaller and more defenceless! But now it’s limiting their growth, and it’s time for them to find a better shell.

Humans, like hermit crabs, pick up shells when we need protection. Sometimes, we need to ditch those shells to keep growing! If we look at them as shells instead of Irredeemable Moral Failures, it’s a hell of a lot easier to let them go.

lesbian-lizards:

antiporn-activist:

You say “All women are beautiful” but what you probably mean is “All women have value.”

And the reason you’re mixing up those two words is because you’ve been raised to believe that only beauty can confer value on women.

This also explains why so many people jump to “ugly” as an insult when faced with a woman they don’t agree with or don’t like.

natural voice change

all-the-birds-sang:

advicefortranskids:

Lower

• Boom Your Voice
  
• How to deepen your voice naturally
• How to talk with a deeper voice 
• How to deepen your voice (pre-t)
  Voice masculinization
• Vocal androgyny in speech and singing
• This Phone App Helps Transgender Users Change The Pitch And Tone Of Their Voices (buzzfeed article) 
  

Higher

• Voice Feminization
  
• Pitch, range, resonance, depth
  
• How to develop a female voice
  
• Feminine voice techniques         
  

Someone might need this

witchfinder-major-saucepan:

practicalityinpraxis:

witchfinder-major-saucepan:

So like… what do gatekeepers… DO in the real world? Like if they’re at an LGBT+ event and a bi woman is like “Hi I’m Emily and this is my boyfriend,” do they like… confront her? When a person at a support group says “I’m asexual” do they just sit silently and stew in their own rage? Like how do you people function in the real world??

An enormous amount of gatekeepers don’t interact with local queer groups and communities at all. The younger ones don’t have access, and the older ones got black listed a long time ago for being vile.

That lack of access, for the younger ones, is why they are so easily targeted by older radfem types, and is why the age of gatekeepers is so skewed towards young people, btw. They have no way to experience actual queer communities, so they get sucked into this awful, dangerous parody of it.

That was a rhetorical question but this is a damn good answer

saturnjupiterneptune:

me: *looking at the world while dissociating*

me: the graphics could be better

rhythmic-idealist:

zomblequeen:

badaxefamily:

attentiondeficitstarscream:

if you’re offline or away and i message you something (like a link to a meme or a picture or w/e) honestly just assume that i’m just leaving it there for when you get back and not expecting you to answer straight away. i don’t need you to respond with “hey, sorry, i wasn’t at the computer!” or anything. i was leaving u a gift for later.

I do this all the time on Discord. I’m not expecting a response, I’m just sharing a thing for whenever you happen to see it.

I regularly send my friends memes when I know they’re asleep because I know

they will wake

and then

they will scream

This post, but also when you’re awake and online and even posting. It’s chill! I’m leaving that there for you whenever, that’s the nice thing about technological advancements like instance messaging, it means I can do that without sending you awkward clunky emails, and they DON’T mean we as human beings need to be available to each other immediately! I’m sending you a letter. Take care of it whenever!

underthehedge:

glumshoe:

glumshoe:

I hate when I make a comment that someone sees as random and they ask, “Haha, where did that come from?”

Do you really want to know the series of internal associations and mental events that led me from one idea to another? I’m guessing not so much.

What I think: “The color of your nail polish reminded me of iridescent beetle wings, which reminded me of a dress made for an 1888 production of Macbeth, onto which over a thousand jewel beetle wings were sewn. I purchased a green sequined dress and wore it to a New Year’s Party in Ohio, in honor of the number 7, the digit I find most pleasing. I associate the number 7 and its multiples as elegant and well-dressed. I always pictured a human version of the number 7 as having flapper hair with carefully waxed curls. Waxed curls remind me of Denise Crosby’s hairstyle in an episode of Star Trek I recently re-watched and then caused me to go on another long rant about how we depict robots in media. Robots remind me of the book I am reading, in which an AI must adjust to being housed in a gynoid body and passing as human. To do this, she eats to keep up pretenses and because she enjoys it. Eating despite not needing to reminds me that I need to eat and forget to because I don’t recognize hunger. Impaired hunger symbols may be due to a lack of beneficial gut bacteria. I am attempting to propogate more gut bacteria through consuming probiotic food like yoghurt and smoothie mixes. I have some in my refrigerator at home, but I need to ensure that they are not expired and that nothing in my kitchen is growing mold. Mold has many surprising uses - the discovery of penicillin and the advancement of medicine surely influenced the last century in immeasurably important ways. The last century has been full of evil as well as progress, however - nuclear weapons are evidence of that! There is strange symmetry to think that radiotrophic mold has apparently been discovered at the Chernobyl site. When I first learned this, I could not contain my excitement and shared this information with a customer service representative with my bank on the phone. He was informed and excited about this topic as well, and we had a wonderful conversation about it entirely unrelated to banking. I hope this diversion did not get him into trouble - I do not know what is or is not considered acceptable interaction with customers. I need to visit my bank soon and withdraw cash so I can pay Hope my share of the hotel bill next month. It’s unfortunate that we were not able to secure the AirB&B they used last year, but the hotel should be acceptable so long as it is clean. It may appear clean, but I bet there is a whole horrifying world of organic residue invisible to the naked eye…”

What I say out loud: “Did you know that blood doesn’t naturally fluoresce? It will not show up under a blacklight like in the movies. Real forensic investigators detect bloodstains by spraying chemicals like Luminol, which react with the iron in hemoglobin and cause the bloodstains to glow.“

ADHD.txt

This is me, though it’s not linear: each step has multiple branches and it can veeeerry quickly get out of hand. Probably why ADHD folk can be excellent at problem solving (just run through EVERY POSSIBILE PATH in your head) and also paralysed with inaction at the simplest things (just run through EVERY POSSIBLE THING in your head).

kucala:

reminder that while i check my messages and activity pretty regularly, otherwise i’m much more active on instagram and twitter these days!

tinyecologist:

Loving yourself is not (necessarily):

• Thinking you’re gorgeous
• Not wanting to change anything about your body, personality, or life
  

Loving yourself is:

• Knowing you have inherent worth regardless of your physical appearance or life circumstance
• Knowing you deserve good things
• Wanting to take care of yourself because you deserve good things